When you have challenges that are hard and seem to go on forever, it is easy to become frustrated. My medical situation has become very frustrating, because of all the tests and time spent with doctors. None of this represents the life I was living, and I am anxious to have this all behind me. I feel that I am no longer in control of my body and the future is unknown…which is frightening. I shared this with my counselor and how I felt that “because I was weak and didn’t get out of the abusive situations, I was now left with the severe head trauma that is triggering my migraines”. She made a soul shocking statement. She said, “it is a choice to believe you were weak”. I never really thought about it like that. Even though you have the emotion of “weak”, you have the choice of whether or not you are going to validate it. If you choose not to validate it, there is another emotion behind it that is the true emotion. For me, it was the fear of going through this alone and the unknown. My counselor went onto say, that this challenge will be like walking to New York, with no one giving you a ride along the way. I will have to work through each day until I get through it.
Challenges are not fun to go through. Each one is different. Look for the knowledge that comes with each one. Break the challenge down into liveable moments and choose what your going to do with each one. Remember that you have the choice of validating any emotion. If you choose not to, look for the hidden one behind it and use that to choose your action. Most importantly, it”s your choice to live. Empower it by choice.